Mentalities For Us to Work On. Hello everyone, my name is Samuel Balaoro, and welcome to the BE Mindset, a place for future leaders and personal development. If you are new here, follow us on Instagram for updates on new events happening in The BE Mindset community. As we are going through our lives within this current pandemic, a strong mentality is a part of what we need in order to stay sane. Last time, we talked about holding our integrity and creating opportunities. Today we will discuss different mentalities and which ones will help us in the long run.
DISCLAIMER: I am not a psychologist or a doctor. This is for study purposes only. Everything shown here is based on personal opinion. The facts we took were researched from actual case studies. Please take with your own consent before you decide what to understand. Thank you.
Everyone views things based on their mentality. Optimists look at everything with positivity. Pessimists view life with negativity. Then there are realists, which is harder to explain. Their perspective with every situation is realistic. Yet there is more to a realist besides that. We will discuss these three mentalities now.
Three Major Mentalities
Three Major Mentalities
This mentality is known as a negative mentality. Having this mentality can lead to depression. Most people with this mentality usually show the same signs as those with major depression but have not reached the same level as major depression. However, this mentality can bring one to reckless consequences. If you want to read more of when we talked about depression, then read our article here.
There was a study that shows pessimism linking to long term stress. Emily Shemanski from PsyPost did a study on this. Turns out that stress can affect all types of mentalities besides pessimism. This shows how everyone’s mindset can easily change, so if one is a pessimist, they can still have a chance to change.
If pessimism is a negative mentality, then optimism is a positive mentality. Optimism is seen to be a better mentality for our mental health but it turns out it’s great for our physical health as well. Harvard Medical School did a study of how optimism can help our blood pressure and even our heart. They found that 2,564 people, men and women, age 65 and older, had lower blood pressure. We know the positives of being optimistic, so we will go over the last mentality.
This is more complex to talk about compared to the last two. Realism is more than just a mentality, it is also a philosophy. Realism is a mentality that decides reality from conceptual ideas or beliefs. It looks at what we hold as natural or common sense. Thinking realistic has two traits.
- Existence: What is universally decided on how it exists
- Independence: The object is independent of what others say or think about it
For the case of our study, we will just talk about realism being the view of seeing reality.
What is The Best Mentality to Have?
What is The Best Mentality to Have?
Just as we have mentioned earlier, our mentalities can change. It can change as we get older or from stress or other outside forces. When it comes to optimism or pessimism, it is generally better to have optimism. However, I think that too much of anything is not good for anyone. Anyways, even the most optimistic person will hold something negative within themselves.
There was a documentary called, “The Secret”. In this documentary, they speak of the secret being the law of attraction. If you think positively and believe really hard for what you want, then eventually it will come to you. I’ m sure like most speculate you do not believe in this. Well, neither do I. This does not mean I do not believe in spiritual power, but I don’t think to be too optimistic will have the world come your way.
What About Realism?
This is where the realism comes in. This mentality helps put a balance with optimism and pessimism. It makes you think logically and use basic common sense in certain areas of life. An example would be like catching the flu and the pessimist will think they will die, while the realist will know they’ll survive. Another example would be an optimist thinking they can get whatever they want if they just “believe”, while a realist knows you have to put work and effort to get the things you want.
Obviously I am exaggerating the examples. It makes it easier to understand my point. However, I don’t think we should think too realistic either. At the end of the day, realism is a philosophy, meaning that it can change as life goes by.
This especially comes true to what we perceive as reality. At one point we thought the earth was the center of the universe, the earth was flat, or even the idea that humans cannot fly. So have a balance with each of these mentalities, but have more of optimism and realism.
How to Work on Your Mentality
Take Care of Your Body
1. Take care of your body.
We spoke of the importance of taking care of your body. There is plenty of research showing the effects of a healthy body to a strong mind. Just remember that a healthy body is more than just exercise. You have to be mindful of your eating as well. This does not necessarily mean dieting because dieting is only for the short term. A healthy body means having a healthy lifestyle, so be more aware of what you are eating and always find time to exercise.
Strengthen Your Mind
2. Strengthen your mind.
This is really the best way to work on your mentality. Your brain is a muscle, so if you do not keep it in shape, it will be mentally weak. And just like how there are different ways to work out your body, there are different ways to work out your mind.
You can work out the spiritual part of the mind through meditation. Then you can exercise your “school smart” and “street smart”. The main ways you can work both of these out is through self-education and problem-solving. The school smart will help add skills for innovative and creative work. With street smart, it will guide you through surviving and socializing. There are more ways, but these two are the main.
Surround Yourself with Good People
3. Surround yourself with good people.
Being around good people will guide you to being a good person as well. Everyone is influenced based on what surrounds them. So if you are surrounded by toxic people, let them go because they will make your life worse. If you live in a toxic area, then find a way to isolate yourself from that area. However, if this is currently too hard, then find good people as soon as you can. They should be able to be there for you and guide you to becoming a better person.
Work on Your Spirit
4. Work on your spiritual side.
This may seem a little confusing since I have talked about having realism. I am not here to tell you to believe in a god, but you have to admit that there are some things that cannot be explained by reality. Science alone is still in the works, so there are many things it still cannot explain. Now if you can’t believe in a higher being, then at least work on your spiritual self. To be whole is to work on every part of you, which is the body, the mind, and the spirit.
I have already put meditation as the exercise for the spirit and mind. If you want to try something else, then you can always try Tai Chi. The Chinese transformed this martial art from a combat art to spiritual art. There are many moves to it that are soft and meant to relax the body and spirit.
Something to Remember
Something to Remember
I will repeat myself saying this, but our mentalities can always change. It can change through age. It can also change from some kind of unstoppable force. Things like stress, anxiety, fear, or trauma can make us think one way or another. Doing everything mentioned earlier does not guarantee you with always having a great mentality, but it does give you a chance to come back to yourself if ever you were swayed by such things.
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Harvard Medical School: https://www.health.harvard.edu/heart-health/optimism-and-your-health
Fiona Parashar: http://positivepsychology.org.uk/optimism-pessimism-theory/
Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy: https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/realism-intl-relations/