Depression and The Journey to Happiness. Hello everyone, my name is Samuel Balaoro and welcome to the BE Mindset, a place for future leaders and personal development. If you’re new here, follow us on Instagram for updates on new events happening in The BE Mindset community. As you know our motto here in the BE Mindset is, “Be Happy, Be Alive, Be Free, Be You”. Today, we’ll be talking about the first part, “Be Happy”.
Everyone is always in the pursuit of happiness. The beautiful thing about happiness is that everyone has their own definition of happiness. For some it’s family, others may be wealth or prosperity. The journey is different for everyone. Here in the BE Mindset, we help people with moving forward on that journey.
When I say the journey, I don’t mean a journey of looking for happiness. The journey is working for happiness. At the end of the day, you are the one who gives happiness a definition. That is why we love to help people in starting their journey to happiness.
However, the journey can seem out of reach for some people. There are those who have a troubling mental state that’s holding them back to reach the journey. This mental state is called depression. You probably have love ones or you yourself have this mental illness. If you want to know how to help someone going through this, we’ll be discussing all of that here.
DISCLAIMER: I am not a doctor, therapist, or psychiatrist. Everything that we will talk about here are from studies of specialists who know the real health problems. Depression is a serious illness and should not be taken lightly. I am merely showing research from other people. If you or a loved one is actually going through this, please go to a doctor right away.
Who This Is For
There are two parts why “Be Happy” is in the motto. First, to help guide you to find and pursue your journey to happiness. Second, to give knowledge to those who have people in there lives that are wanting to find happiness as well, but don’t know-how. I’ve met so many people who have instances where someone they care about is going through hard times but don’t know how to help them. We here in the BE Mindset will help you in finding the answers you are looking for.
Before we can talk about combating depression we need to know what depression really is. Depression is defined as, “a state of being depressed or an act of depressing”. There are relative terms used for the word depression, but for our case, we will only discuss two. One is a state of feeling sad, while the other is a mood disorder. Both are serious, yet one is more complicated than the other. So in speaking of the mood disorder, we’ll be discussing six variations of depression.
6 Types of Depression
6 Types of Depression
1. Major Depression
This is the main type of depression. Most likely when you think of what depression is, this is what best fits the description. Someone who’s suffering from this kind of depression is going through the darkest mood possible. They are most likely depressed almost all the time every day. The dark emotions consume them and it’s hard to get out of.
With major depression, one has many symptoms. The one that shows is a loss of interest in everything they do. They feel like they are worthless, so they are accustomed to suicidal thoughts. It’s easier for them to lose energy, so they might feel more tired during the day and harder to sleep at night. They most likely have a harder time making decisions and concentrating.
More physical signs include losing or gaining weight. They slow down and seem more sluggish. Feelings of restlessness and agitation take over the mind as well. And because they lost interest in everything, they can’t find pleasure in anything anymore.
2. Persistent Depressive Disorder
This is a type of depression that lasts two years or more. It was originally called “dysthymia”, which is a low mood depression that might not reach major depression. Another name for this is “chronic major depression”.
Now people with this type of depression can still move day today. However, they don’t have much energy and often reach fatigue. They have low self – esteem, often feeling hopeless. Sleeping habits change each time, either having too much or too little sleep. Their appetite changes as well. Focus and concentration become a real struggle for one with this type of depression.
3. Bipolar Disorder
This type of depression is like a coin, there are two sides. On one side, they can have a positive mood. The other side shows a negative mood. What keeps them similar to each other is the fact that they are all done in high energy, which means they can be reckless in their actions. This is why its other name is “maniac depression”.
The low state of this depression is basically like major depression. Unfortunately, the high state is not healthy either. Their self – esteem is too high, becoming too unrealistic. They are thinking and moving faster, but they take dangerous risks and are reckless in their actions. They still have bad sleeping habits not because they are having trouble with it, but simply because the high energy loses the need for sleep. Eventually, these actions lead to self – destruction and fall deep into the depressive state showing the symptoms of major depression.
4. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
This kind of depression comes during the change of seasons. One can usually feel this during fall and winter. This may come because of the change in natural light, which is why everything seems darker during fall and winter, while it’s brighter during spring and summer. It could have also come because of the change in our body’s natural clock. Even if this isn’t as dangerous as the ones previously mentioned, it is still a common type of depression that most people feel.
5. Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD)
These last two types are depressions specifically only women go through. One of them is Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD). This disorder is an intense version of Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS). The disorder shows itself at the beginning of a woman’s period. It shows at the start of ovulation and ends at the beginning of mensuration.
This disorder causes constant mood swings. They feel like they are being overwhelmed. The overwhelming feeling causes anxiety. Because of anxiety, it becomes harder to focus and concentrate. All of this makes everything and everyone around them irritating.
The physical symptoms are the same. They are easily fatigued. However, that doesn’t make sleep easier, so their sleeping habits change. This goes the same for the change in appetite.
6. Perinatal Depression
This is a depression that can come either during pregnancy or after childbirth. Its two other names are “peripartum” and “postpartum”. The depression would come as episodes, big and small. What makes this kind of depression worse is that it not only affects the mothers, but it can affect the infants as well. A study was shown that one in seven women can get this depression once they give birth.
Actionable Steps to Fighting Depression & Pursue Happiness
If You Are Going Through Depression
If You Are Going Through Depression
1. Seek Medical Help.
I will keep saying this first because your depression can be serious. If you are showing signs of any of the symptoms listed above, then you should be treated immediately. Even if you are not sure how severe your depression is, it’s better to be safe than sorry. At the end of the day, everything I will say now will only be considered as supplements to the problem. The sooner you seek professional help, the sooner you can fight the depression.
2. Tell Your Loved Ones About It.
The next best thing to do after seeking medical attention is to tell your loved ones about your depression. During your darkest moments, it’s best to tell your parents, a family member, your best friend, or your significant other. The tendency of people with depression is that they don’t tell other people about it.
They feel hopeless and worthless. They begin to believe that nobody cares for them, which is not true. If you have depression and you decide to isolate yourself from the world, you have a higher chance of suicidal thoughts to take over your mind. Do not be afraid to tell anyone about it, just be open to your family and loved ones. They are there to care and love you, so remember that.
3. Find Something or Someone to Believe In.
The most important thing for everyone is to believe in yourself. You need to love and take care of yourself first to begin the process of happiness. Unfortunately, people with depression have a hard time doing this. The reason I suggest believing in something or someone is that at the very least you will have something to look to and build a foundation for yourself.
Just make sure what you choose to believe in is something that will help you in becoming a better person. That’s why it’s hard to fight religion because whether you really believe in a god or not, you can agree that generally, people who follow their religion are respectable people. They normally would keep to the core principals and transform into becoming a better person.
If a Love One is Going Through Depression
If a Love One is Going Through Depression
Before I share this, I want to talk about a time I had with a friend of mine. She was telling me that she has a friend who was going through depression. She was confessing everything to her and my friend felt so useless on how to help her out. I also had a lot of people who comes to me with similar stories and problems. This list will help you out if you run to a similar situation.
1. If It’s Serious, Make Sure They Are Getting Professional Help.
I’ve been saying this since earlier, so I won’t go in too deep on this part. Now sometimes your friend might just need someone to talk to. However, if he or she starts hurting themselves because of the depression, then you should do something about it. Notify the parents and doctors about it. Your friend would need medical attention, so do it before they hurt themselves even more.
2. Let Them Know You Love & Care For Them.
As we mentioned earlier, depression makes people believe they are worthless and lose hope in everything, especially in themselves. You have to constantly let them know that they are not worthless. Tell them not to lose hope and to believe in themselves. Most importantly, tell them that you are there believing in them as well.
During their dark times, you need to be with them and check up on them every time. They will need someone to lean on. In this case, you really need to tell and show them that you love them. Be there to make sure they’re alright.
3. Don’t Be Afraid If You Have Nothing to Say.
This is what a majority of people fear. This is what my friend felt ashamed of. You know you wanted to say something, but you didn’t know how to say it. I’m here to tell you that it’s okay if you didn’t say anything. Like what I said earlier, sometimes they just need someone to talk to. As long as you are really listening to them and show that you are there with and for them, they will feel your effort.
4. If You Know You Should Say Something, Then Learn How.
Now I know for most cases you know that you need to say something to them. So here’s the secret to knowing what to say, listen to them. Yes, you heard me right. You need to learn how to listen to them intently to know what to say to them. And when I say listen I don’t just mean to their words, but to their emotions as well.
Even if you know the right words to say, without listening to their emotions, you can still say the wrong things. The art of listening is not just what we can hear, but what we can feel as well. To become a master at this takes time, practice, and experience. I know it’s hard to practice with limited time, so learn as quickly as possible. Luckily for you, we talk about the art of listening and communication here in the BE Mindset, so subscribe to always be updated on when we release a new article.
5. Be Patient With Them.
I feel like this is obvious, but I’m going to mention just in case. Their depression won’t go away overnight. The fight against depression is a long battle, which may consume the majority of their lives. So do everything we talked about here and keep doing it. If you truly care for the person, you’ll see to it that at the end of all of it, you were there with them since the beginning.
Something to Remember
Something to Remember
I know this is a deep topic we just talked about here. Just remember to never blame yourself, even when after everything you did, your friend ended up losing the battle. You need to know that you did everything you can to make sure they will be alright, so it’s not your fault if it didn’t work out in the end.
I have many friends that either fought or are still fighting depression. Some are bipolar, while others are more severe. Luckily, they are doing fine now, but I know that’s not the case for everyone. Don’t let it bring you down, so surround yourself with love from your friends and family because, in the end, it’s love that will conquer everything. Now if you ever need anything from this matter, contact our email or DM our Instagram and we’ll be happy to support you in any way we can.
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Harvard Health Medical School: https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/six-common-depression-types