Telling Your Story


  Hey, guys welcome to the BE Mindset, a place for everyone to learn and grow. My name is Samuel Balaoro, and if you are new here, thank you for joining today. If you didn’t know I live in Florida, but last week I visited my family in California. I was there for my church retreat, and while I was there I got to reflect on some things. For one, which we’ll be talking about here today, was the power of storytelling and telling your story.


INTRODUCTION

  We all know a good story or two. A good story we’ve read, seen, or listened to can move us. We are moved through the different emotions brought out from the one telling the story. A story can bring out a feeling of happiness, sadness, love, or hatred. This goes for our lives as well. We know that our lives are stories, yet we all have different ways interpreting it.


WHY IS OUR LIFE STORY THE WAY IT IS?

  The way we see our story is based off of our perception of it. Sure there are outside forces along with our story, but in the end we have the choice on how we will tell it. For example, let’s say your crush. To other people, they might see all the negatives about them. You on the other hand will see the positives about them. In reality, some of both sides may be true or not, positive or negative. The way you’ve judged them was based on your own perception of them.

  Same concept applies to ourselves. The funny thing is that it’s easier for us to perceive other people’s lives more than our own. What makes it worse is when we do look at our own lives, we just decide that’s the story we have to live by. It’s great to read our own story, but don’t forget that if we don’t like a certain part of the story we can also change it. Yes there are some parts where we cannot change the story, but for the parts where we can, do something about it instead of just following it.


HOW TO TELL, REWRITE, AND RETELL YOUR STORY

  Self-reflection is the best way to look at your story. You’ll get to look on what has been happening in your life story. You’ll see the things you like, dislike, love, and hate. To make things better, write it all down on a piece of paper or a journal. Someplace where you can always look at it.

  Ask yourself, “Am I willing to tell my story to the world?” If you’re not satisfied with the things you have written, then write a plan to start working on them. I suggest start with one first and work on it little by little. If you work on them too fast you will get burnt out. Changing yourself takes time and a lot of patience.

  Once you feel like you like your story, then retell your story to others. Now you’re probably thinking, “Sam, I don’t care what others think about me. I only care about how I see myself.” It’s good that you have confidence in yourself now, but if no one knows how you are now they may still look at you on how you were. For example, people might look at you as a bad guy. Now you might actually be a good guy, but because everyone still sees you as a bad guy, they still treat you like one. Even if you’re not affected by it, it’ll still influence other things around you that you do care about.


TELLING A NEW STORY

  Learn how to tell a story because there is power in storytelling. Especially in telling your own story. When you’re telling your story, you need to know how to not only say it but show it as well. Everyone knows the saying, “Talk the talk, and walk the walk.” You need to become a performer of your own story. What I love about dancing is that you can tell a story without the need of saying anything, just your movements with the music. Your story can really be captivating if your actions correlate with what you’re saying. You can’t say things and not have anything to prove it. Tell your story through both mouth and movement, and everyone will watch to see what will happen next.


CONCLUSION

  There is power in telling a story. It can move us based on what the teller is portraying. It also affects the perception of the story. All the more when we tell our story. Our story is based on how we view ourselves. Eventually, what we view in ourselves, other people will see it too. So if we don’t like how our story is going, we need to rewrite certain parts. Once we like the story we’re looking at, we should tell that new story of ours and show to others the changes made. A captivating story will not only change ourselves but those around us as well.

  Thank you for joining us. If you haven’t yet, please join the BE Community. This is a place for everyone to learn and grow within themselves. I will be sharing new lessons every Friday. I am Samuel Balaoro and remember to be alive, be happy, be free, be you.

5 Forgotten Truths About Love


 Hello everyone, I hope you had an amazing Valentine’s Day. If your single that’s fine too. It’s great to have fun on your own. In the spirit of this month, let’s dig into the subject of love. I think one of the funniest things my parents would say to me is, “Your generation doesn’t know how to love.” I would laugh whenever they bring it up, but when I do get to think about it, it’s true, nonetheless. In reality, the way we love now is different from how the older generation used to love. As technology advances, the way we live our everyday lives changes as well. This includes being in relationships. Nowadays, you can download an app to meet other single people in your area. Also, because of video chats like FaceTime, you can have a well LDR (Long Distance Relationship).

  Long were the days of how our parents used to love. Now I’m not trying to bash on our current way of loving. What I am going to share here are basic things to remember about love. Think of this as forgotten truths about love. Understanding this can help improve your relationship, or if you’re single, help bring love along the way. Here are the 5 forgotten truths about love.


1. Love is selfless.

  You know I had to start with this one. In our current time, many people are pretty selfish. They like to see themselves as “victims” or that the world revolves around them. Now I have to mention this because the truth is that many people don’t even realize they’re doing this. If you’re the person who starts to imagine other people in your life who is like this, then most likely you’re this person as well.

I’m saying this because, in reality, we’re all pretty selfish one way or another. So when I mention this, it doesn’t mean I don’t believe in self-love. I believe if you want to love others to the best of your ability, then you should first love yourself. But once you do build enough love for yourself, then you must love others selflessly. For couples, always think about the times you made each other happy because you thought of one another.

The moment you become selfish in the relationship, that’s when tension builds up. From tension comes trust issues, trust issues come obsession, obsession comes unhappiness, unhappiness comes toxicity, etc. For single people, try to love someone just to love. “Sam, I’m already loving others just for loving and I’m still single. That doesn’t work.” I’m here to tell you this is your problem. You’re loving others because you are thinking of yourself. You’re not thinking of the other person at all. They’ll have their reasons why, so don’t expect things right away. That right one will come to you, and you’ll know.


2. Love is giving.

  This part correlates with the first one. I had to bring this one up because this is one that’s usually misunderstood. For both singles and couples, you’re either a taker or you give way too much. Let’s talk about couples first. I believe when it comes to couples, there should be an even balance between giving and taking.

I’ve seen many relationships where one is giving more while the other is taking. This usually ends with the giver becoming tired of giving and wants to give up in the relationship. I’d say to make sure this doesn’t happen, always be transparent with each other. Don’t be afraid to talk “those talks” with one another. Even if you know it’s going to hurt, telling the truth is more relieving than keeping things to yourself. And let’s be honest with ourselves, everything hidden will eventually be revealed. Might as well be open up from the beginning.

Now for the single people, you’re either giving way too much or you’re keeping too much to yourself. Open your eyes to see people as people, meaning giving too much of yourself will actually make things worse. People will get uncomfortable really quick. At the same time, don’t expect to get love when you’re not really giving love. Give love the right way, and enough so the people will feel comfortable.


3. Stop searching for love. Love will come to you… sort of.

  This one is really for the singles now. What I want you to do is STOP. Literally, stop and think about it. Are you actually ready for love? Maybe you want it because “everyone else” is doing it? Are you in a hurry for love? Well if you’re actually ready for love, then stop searching for it… sort of.

What I mean is that this has two parts to it. First, work on yourself to give out love in general. You know the golden rule, “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” The same thing applies here. Show love so love will be attracted to you.

The second part is this, don’t necessarily “look” for love, but build relationships that can lead to love. There are so many people who dread the friend zone. I think we shouldn’t be afraid of the friend zone. I picture the friend zone as a foundation for a long-lasting relationship. However, this doesn’t mean you should get into friendships just to hopefully be in a relationship. If you’re not genuine in your friendship, it’ll show, which is why I said don’t look for love. Build your relationships in life, and let love do its work. You will know when the right one is there for you.


4. Love is patient.

  Now here’s a hard pill to swallow. This can go along with the last part. True love is not meant to be rushed. Love shouldn’t move fast. If love “comes” quickly, there’s a chance it’ll leave quickly. For those who are trying to get the love for other things besides love, there are plenty of ways to do those other things than finding love. The funny thing about love is that it’s like a wild card, it comes when you least expect it. For the sisters, sorry love doesn’t think about age. For the brothers, sorry love doesn’t think about finances. Love can come at any age and whether you’re broke or rich. Now if you want to love for love, then just follow the last parts. Do not rush love. The best kind of love comes to those who are patient for it.


5. Love is meant for the long term.

  Finally, we reached the honest truth of love. If you came here to see how fast you can get a boyfriend/girlfriend, then sorry to disappoint you. This is not for people who just want one night stands or are thinking of just jumping in a relationship. If you noticed from the last parts, true love was meant to be long term. That’s why the majority of our parents are OUR parents. They held on to true love, and you are the proof of that love.

Love should always be there in your life. For couples, there’s no rush, but make sure that person is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. That promise should always be there, “till death do us part”. For single people, love is not a game. It’s not made for us to jump from person to person. Know and analyze everything before you decide to love because love takes hard work and commitment. Love will come at you out of nowhere, so it’s better to understand it now instead of being unprepared when it finally comes.


  These are the 5 forgotten truths about love. If you review all these parts you’ll realize one thing, true love is hard. There’s nothing wrong if you feel like you are missing some of these parts or you need to work on some of these. In reality, we are not perfect people. We will make mistakes. We will say or do things that may hurt others. There will still be fighting. A lot of arguments will happen. There will be tears. But if we work to make our love purer, then our love will be strong enough to hold us together.

Now if you are single and you are afraid about love, you have every right to. Love will hurt. It can even kill you. But giving that chance to love will bring more fulfillment than not loving at all. I’d like to end this with a passage from The Bible on 1 Corinthians 13, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hope, always preserves. Love never fails. And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

7 Quotes From The Legend: Kobe Bryant


  It’s still crazy about what happened. Nobody ever expected this. For me personally, it felt like a normal Sunday. I was at church when the news came. Even though I live in Florida now, I’m still caught up with my home in LA. So when the news came, I didn’t want to believe it. Nobody wanted to believe it. So I’m writing this to show some love for my hometown and for Kobe Bryant.

  Everybody knows who Kobe Bryant is. Even those who don’t watch basketball know who Kobe Bryant is. He was loved by many, and an inspiration to all. Normally, I like to summarize quotes for people to understand. But this time I’ll just let his words talk, making it resonate in our hearts. These are some of my favorite quotes from Kobe Bryant.

7 Quotes From Kobe Bryant

1.“I have self-doubt. I have insecurity. I have a fear of failure. I have nights when I show up at the arena and I’m like, ‘My back hurts, my feet hurt, my knees hurt. I don’t have it. I just want to chill.’ We all have self-doubt. You don’t deny it, but you also don’t capitulate to it. You embrace it.”

2.“Can I jump over two or three guys like I used to? No. Am I as fast as I used to be? No, but I still have the fundamentals and the smarts. That’s what enables me to still be a dominant player. As a kid growing up, I never skipped steps. I always worked on fundamentals because I know athleticism is fleeting.”

3.“I’ve played with IVs before, during and after games. I’ve played with a broken hand, a sprained ankle, a torn shoulder, a fractured tooth, a severed lip, and a knee the size of a softball. I don’t miss 15 games because of a toe injury that everybody knows wasn’t that serious in the first place.”

4.“I’ll do whatever it takes to win games, whether it’s sitting on a bench waving a towel, handing a cup of water to a teammate, or hitting the game-winning shot.”

5.“The important thing is that your teammates have to know you’re pulling for them and you really want them to be successful.”

6.“Christmas morning. I’m going to open presents with my kids. I’m going to take pictures of them opening the presents. Then I’m going to come to the Staples Center and get ready to work.”

7.“I’m here. I’m not going anywhere. No matter what the injury – unless it’s completely debilitating – I’m going to be the same player I’ve always been. I’ll figure it out. I’ll make some tweaks, some changes, but I’m still coming.”


  As of respect, condolences to the families and everyone who was affected by this event. Now I’ve seen a lot of people speaking of life lessons from Kobe’s death, but I believe we should always remember the life lessons from Kobe when he was alive. His life showed lessons of hard work and perseverance, but it also showed lessons of love and gratitude. There are  so many things we can learn from Kobe. He may not have been the perfect human being because nobody is, but he was a legend and great enough to impact us all in our lives, whether we play basketball or not. I’m going to end this with a piece from Lebron James’ speech that he gave before their game against the Portland Trailblazers on January 31, 2020.

  “Kobe is a brother to me. From the time I was in high school watching him from afar, to getting in this league at 18 and watching him up close, all the battles that we had throughout my career, the one thing that we always shared was that determination to just want to win, to just want to be great. The fact that I’m here now means so much to me. I want to continue, along with my teammates, his legacy. Not only for this year, but for as long as we can play this game of basketball that we love, because that’s what Kobe Bryant would want. So in the words of Kobe Bryant, ‘Mamba out.’ But in the words of us, ‘Not forgotten.’ Live on, brother.” – Lebron James January 31,2020


Thank you for joining us. If you love Kobe Bryant and want to learn everything about him like his thoughts, emotions, and more, I suggest to read his book, “The Mamba Mentality: How I Play“. It’s his own personal book that he wrote and shows readers how he prepared himself not only to excel in the game of basketball, but in every part of his life. You can get a hard copy of the book here.